Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
Also keep in mind that bad grammar, spelling mistakes and poor language are huge turnoffs.
Moreover, well-written text messages make you look definitely more mature and intelligent.
If your profile is half-finished, or Arctic in its brevity, or doesn’t include photos, most likely you won’t receive a reply.
Your first message to her should contain a comment on something you have in common or something you find exciting about her.
Take your time until you see something you really like about her and mention it.
By the way, complimenting a woman on her personality is not being done often, so you’ll definitely stand out.
Most hook up sites tell you when someone is live on their site.
Choose the appropriate time to send your email when she’s on.