For Arabs living in North America and Europe (where the majority of the population is white) many Arab women (and men) will opt for dating a white guy. But when eavesdropping on female conversations regarding dating Arab men, other reasons come into play.
So what confuses Arab mothers around the world is why wouldn’t their Arab daughter want to be with a person that shares her culture, traditions, values and language.
DEARBORN — Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love and display affection.
However, the way individuals and communities perceive and pursue romance differs among cultures and religions, and the Arab American community is no exception.
” It’s where the joke of Arab women saying “enta awal wahad fi hayati” comes from, Arab women feel the need to lie regarding their romantic history in order to make Arab men feel special… Having been with another person makes you damaged goods, and while not every man carries these backwards ideologies, many still do (see the Scoop Empire comments).
When dating outside the Arab society and even diving into a more liberal white society, Arab women don’t have to face judgement, lie about their history, or pretend to be a delicate flower that hasn’t experienced life, or worry about overshadowing an Arab man’s ego.
The fact that we went out on a few dates or I told you I like you is most definitely NOT a marriage proposal.
However, Zeinab, an 18 year-old Edsel Ford High School graduate, said the dissimilar treatment between males and females in the community is actually “sexism,” although her mother does not bar her from having a boyfriend.“When I met my boyfriend, I thought there’s no way my mother would approve of him because he’s Chaldean,” she said. But I told her after a few months, and she said she trusts me and she doesn’t mind.”However, Zeinab added that her mother still implemented limitations on her relationship.
“I have to come back home at a certain time; she is always calling, always worried that I might drink or have sex with him,” she explained. But these are the culture’s standards, and culture plays a major role in our lives. I feel like that’s what my parents used on me, and it is how I’m raising my children.”“If dating is to know the person and build commitment, then there is no problem with it,” she explained. The American perspective on dating is often sexual, and that’s the problem.” Imam Mohammad Ali Elahi, the spiritual leader of the Islamic House of Wisdom in Dearborn Heights, said the version of dating that the “dominant culture” promotes is wrong and unhealthy to the concept of family.
And although you’ve done unorthodox things together he still plans on marrying virgin Salma from the village when it’s time. If you don’t relate to any of these then it’s cause he’s an idiot, who fails to see the diamond in the rough you are, so if he’s not appreciating what he’s got this early on chances are he never will. Also check out 5 Reason’s You’re Still Single- The Arab Men Edition The 6 Annoying Dating Habits of Middle Eastern Men The 6 Annoying Dating Habits of Middle Eastern Women What Men Really Want- Especially Lebanese Men The Lebanese Politicians’ Wedding Album He’s Muslim, She’s Christian, All They Need is Love Right!
And who wants to marry a man with lack of vision anyway?