But is it true that it’s ESPECIALLY hard for you to ? If you’re anything like most Asian guys, you probably believe it is.Somewhere through your childhood, you had some bad expereince where a white woman turned you down, VICIOUSLY stomped all over your heart and you’ve been scarred from that moment onwards.And it’s also clear that a point I touched on in my blog—about how this dialogue about Asian female-white male relationships hasn’t progressed much in the past twenty years; that much of it is still on the level of “if you’re an Asian woman and you’re with a white man, you’re a traitor”–is still true.As evidence, check out some of comments from that blog: Look, I get it—though things have improved in recent years, Asian men are still often seen as asexual and emasculated in American pop culture.It was heartbreaking to watch my friend’s intercultural relationship fall apart (and even harder to not pick a side).
You can read my original blog here so I won’t repeat the points that I previously made, but it’s clear this is still a relevant issue–it quickly became one of our most read blogs ever.
” And from there, your life long limiting belief was formed.
Now, I could sit here and tell you a thousand times over that your limited ability to date a white woman has NOTHING to do with the colour of your skin and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that you simply don’t help her feel empowered, free, loved, beautiful, and appreciated… Your beliefs are formed with evidence and they’re only going to be changed with evidence.
If you do not respect and appreciate your partners culture (to the extent you are willing to forsake elements of your own culture for their benefit), intercultural and interracial relationships are nearly impossible.
I started to wonder if there were any other couples “out there” like me.