Sometimes you might feel like you’re desperate to be in a relationship…until the possibility is right in front of you. I also never thought I would find a guy my family approved of, so I sort of let being in a relationship become, like, my 40th priority.(It’s like when you agree to go skydiving with a friend — then you see them jump out of the plane and you think, “No way am I doing that! ”) When trying to find love, often fear is the one, huge thing standing in the way. But if you are unsure, and there is someone in your life who you are interested in exploring a relationship with, and they are standing there with their arms open to you, and they are willing to help you out of your comfort zone into a new zone of possible relationship awesomeness, then for God’s sake, let them. You might think the only reason you seem desirable to anyone is because they don’t know you that well — because you have managed to put the best version of yourself on display — something you can’t necessarily do when you throw yourself into a honest relationship. Sometimes we look for someone in particular for weird reasons. I know that people do this with their parents and siblings.More personally, most guys didn’t grow up with a father who understood his emotions and knew how to express them.Wise women know that men have lots of feelings—and allow lots of space to process them and lots of grace in figuring out how to verbalize them.So, you've been seeing/dating/sleeping with/messaging a guy and he doesn't want to label things.While you don't need that kind of headache in your life, sometimes it's hard to understand why guys don't want to commit, and we can drive ourselves crazy replaying every possible scenario on how or why things went wrong.
The fact is, our society encourages men to suppress their feelings, holding up as the role model for manhood the strong, silent type.It's hard for a guy to commit to one woman if he's got others on his mind—imagine trying to commit if you had a couple of guys on your mind.In life, it's tough to balance love, family, work, etc.Set aside presumptions and preconceived ideas about men and commitment.If a fabulous woman came along, most men would be thoroughly delighted to commit for a lifetime. It’s just challenging to express them.” Men are often characterized as insensitive, unemotional, and oblivious to anything a millimeter below the surface.