Planned Parenthood and and New York University’s Center for Latino Adolescent and Family Health surveyed a nationally representative sample of 1,663 pairs of parents and their children, ages 9-21, to get a sense of how American families of all backgrounds are communicating about sex and healthy relationships.
What the inquiry found was that eight out of 10 young people have talked to their parents about sexuality.
There is also the argument that adolescents are something like too "emotionally immature" for sexual relations; but this is a mushy argument that doesn't explain why emotional maturity is needed, what it is, and whether or not adolescents generally, or can ever, have it. Blum: The question is complicated since "adolescence" spans an 8 to 10 year period depending on how you define it and there is a lot of development that occurs during that time.
So if we leave aside the specter of STDs and avoid mushy generalities: should adolescents ever be sexually active, and, if so, under what conditions? The issues: when there is a wide difference in age between 2 adolescents (often defined as more than 3 years) it may very well be an unequal power relationship; 2. Most young people define themselves as predominantly attracted to the opposite sex. It is probably an honest reflection of how she feels and that she can discuss it with you is very good.
She claims that she had not had sex yet but finds both boys and girls attractive. Is this normal or is this is just her way of rebelling? What is critical is that your daughter feel comfortable with both attractions.
Having an attraction does not mean that you have to act on it; you have to learn to live with it. Blum, After reading the articles, I find that in the American society, almost all the parents and teaching institutions give a double message towards young people at the same time, just as some experts like Michaud mentioned---On one hand, parents and teachers teach the adolescents to be abstinent until marriage.
I wonder if any of you parents will talk to your kids about heterosexual AND homosexual relations.
There is little data, however, that shows that young people who willingly engage in mutually consenting, non-abusive sexual relations are harmed by it. C.: My daughter is 15 and claims that she is bi-sexual. When young people are confused by their sexuality they are at greater risk for "proving" that they are heterosexual by getting pregnant.The only foolproof approach to sexual safety, of course, is to say “no” and defer sexual activity until later in life.The good news is that as many as half of all adolescents do just that.Adolescence can be tough enough to get through without questions of sex, sexuality, and sexual identity.But adolescents are humans, too — no matter how alien they may seem to their parents at times.