*While ADHD can ruin relationships, the good news is that both partners are not powerless.
There are steps you can take to significantly improve your relationship.
People who have ADHD are far more than just their ADHD symptoms, and therefore have a great deal more than just their ADHD to offer a partner and family.
Further, ADHD is one of the most manageable mental health issues out there.
And if we can barely manage our own lives, why multiply our stresses even more with kids?
And your daughter can’t find her car keys whenever she’s walking out the door. You’ve considered splitting up, but you can’t afford to live on your own. Loving someone who has ADHD can make your life crazy if you don’t get a grip on it. The therapists tell you what to do, but your home is as wild as a college frat house. The thought patterns and behaviors of a person with ADHD never go away.
You wonder if everybody’s life is as chaotic as yours. Your child doesn’t act like the other children in the class.
Homework assignments guarantee a night of fights, slammed doors, and tears shed. Your husband gets fired again claiming all his bosses are jerks. Your sister cancels every time you plan to meet for dinner.
For one, couples may not even know that one partner (or both) suffers from ADHD in the first place.
(Take a quick screening quiz here.)In fact, “more than half of adults who have ADHD don’t know they have it,” according to Orlov.