He told me this because we are planning to get engaged, and he wanted me to know so that I would have the opportunity to end the relationship.
And be assured that it doesn’t help doing it for the first time with a girl who, like you, doesn’t have any experience and doesn’t know what she is doing.
But it cannot redeem it, at least not in any truly deep and lasting way.
But the gospel offers real grace for the heart reeling that can happen from finding out about a boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s sexual past.
If you have any advice I would really love to hear it! Whatever the degree of past sexual sin, learning that your beloved once treated someone else as intimately as you want to be treated — and this outside the bounds of marriage — is a blow.
Tragically, it's become quite common due to all the relational shrapnel in our culture.