The lure and sparkle of a partnership can blind us to areas of incompatibility or relationship red flags.While personality quirks or bad habits can be overlooked or change over time, there are some red flags that should not be ignored as they might be indicative of more serious—even dangerous—concerns.The following article points out some of the characteristics of a potentially abusive man, and why you shouldn't lightly dismiss the signs. After all, they aren't some three-headed monster that people run screaming from on the street.And they don't come with warning labels so you'll know to avoid them.
Yet when someone acts angry for no reason, or explodes in anger, that could be cause for alarm, because extreme or explosive tempers are one of the warning signs of dating abuse.Expressing anger, even by yelling, can release tension, frustration and pain—if done in a safe manner; but it should not be used as a method of control in any situation.Using anger to instill fear in another is unacceptable behavior in any relationship." But, sadly, a few months later, your conversation changed to, "I can't believe he turned out to be so emotionally unavailable, and commitment-phobic." There are people who chronically meet and date individuals who, at first, seem so perfect for a warm, loving relationship. it's so easy to become intoxicated during that early infatuation stage when you meet someone who fits your pictures and seems like the perfect match. Our deep love for them can put us in denial of the fact that they are unavailable for an intimate, close relationship with us.But when those same "in love" people take off their rose colored glasses, they realize the person they thought was Mr. ("He's so good-looking," or "What a gorgeous woman! If a person is serious about finding an emotionally available person for a committed partnership, there are whole categories of people who should be avoided: people living in another state, those who are still married or in love with someone else, and people with addictions - be it workaholics or drug addicts.