Over the past month, I've received hundreds of comments from readers who related to the article and had insightful perspectives to add to the conversation.It became clear that there was more to say on this topic. Why Won't Christian Men Date Women Who Go To Their Church?
is to honor God, be respectful to her, and be brutally honest about when your feelings are casual and when they’re not.I interviewed several single guys in Los Angeles and New York, ranging in age from 28 to 40.I asked how they felt about dating within their church community and their answers were rather surprising. I will not go on a rant—and I firmly believe women can be just as brave—but I do notice a lot of Christian men who are afraid to pass the friend threshold. So with that, I’m going to sign off and actually speak to the folks who can do something about this. They think you don’t notice, but we know better, don’t we? We have some serious issues to work out, namely, the lack of courage displayed by really good men who are hiding their heads in the sand, even as their heart longs to connect. This message was that casual dating is not good, women’s hearts must be guarded by men, and all romantic relationships better have marriage in mind—or the people in them are just using each other.This is why so many women date non-Christians; because Christian guys rarely can just keep it casual and go on a date, give it a chance. Your pal, Eddie —– Dear every kind-hearted, well-meaning, a little bit quiet but not around your bros, comfortable in groups but not one-on-one, single and secretly dreaming of dating (and marriage and kids), kind, helpless, you thought you’d be in a relationship by now but what the heck is going on, I kissed dating goodbye but forgot about procreation and God’s design for relationships, awesome, good men, We have a problem. You noticed the moment she started her internship at your workplace that she was just wonderful, nice to chat with, attractive, marriage material, the bearer of your progeny, and definitely the one God has sent from on high to satisfy your deepest longing and … Yet while all these concepts have elements of wisdom embedded in them, they’ve been distorted just like so many good ideas before them (i.e. The truth is, we’re a people who, when left unchecked, go into Pharisee mode like it’s our job. Let’s walk through the three messages: Message: Casual dating is not good.