The average woman is eight percent shorter than her male partner.
Of course the ability to search for people who meet our criteria is part of the appeal of online dating.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
Author and cultural commentator Bel Hooks refers to this fallacious, pumped up version of the real man as the kind of man who can "take action and break the rules." What characteristics do women find attractive in men?
While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.
In a society where there are ideals of femininity and masculinity, it can be difficult for individuals who don't fit neatly into those boxes.
The first question most strangers ask me is "How tall are you? In one survey, about half of collegiate men required their date to be shorter, while a monstrous nine of every ten women said they would only date a taller man.
" If I'm feeling charitable, I answer honestly: "6-foot-2." They often follow-up with, "Do you ever date shorter men? And online, it's even more brutal: Women can calculate how tall they are in their highest heels, add a few inches for good measure, and then filter out men who fall below that sum.