If the adolescent is now motivated to dress to be deliberately attractive, it can be threatening to see a parent dressing with the same intent.
If the adolescent has anxiety about safe dating, there can be worries on that score for the dating parent as well.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Most parents continue to allow dating because it is the way that they did things in their day, and they believe that they survived.
“Of course it will probably be uncomfortable for both of you,” Anthony says.
“But if he’s so uncomfortable that he gets angry or shuts down or otherwise just can’t continue the conversation, that’s a big sign that he’s not ready for this.” If so, assure your child that there’s no hurry to start dating.
Come adolescence, it can feel awkward, even embarrassing, to begin dating and have a parent who is also starting to date.
If the adolescent now feels old enough to date, the parent may be supposed to be too old to date.
If the adolescent is coming to terms with sexual feelings, it can feel awkward seeing a parent act those feelings out in an intimate relationship.
I want her to find a man who will love her as much as her father has loved me for almost 40 years. She tried setting up her son Jordan Beck, a 27-year-old former pro-football player, with girls several times without any luck.
Would be willing to relocate for the right man," writes the parent. Then she found his future wife, Hillary, through friends she met at a conference.
Our attitude to dating is not so much a matter of church policy but a matter of family government.
Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.