Przybylski got the inspiration for the study after noticing daters and bar-goers in Manhattan leaving their phones out on the bar or table.
He wondered how the phone's presence might be influencing face-to-face interactions.
He found it an oddly effective way of starting things off since you can tell pretty much right away if you’re interested in learning more about someone or not.
“Hotline wants you to stop swiping and start discerning,“ according to their press release.
And when I spoke to Ballantyne, he stressed how keen he was to keep people from seeing their potential dates as commodities, which can be hard on the big apps where you’re matching with hundreds or even of thousands of people.
That’s why he decided to limit the number of matches in Hotline to three at a time.
He said it was her way of testing how much effort he was willing to put in to get to know her.
In online dating, first impressions are crucial: usually people focus on having a good photo or writing a clever profile.
But have you ever thought about what kind of first impression you make by telephone?
), but proactively think of something positive about yourself that you want him/her to know whenever you are asked a mundane question. Turn the tables (casually): Follow up your intentional response with a related question that lets him/her talk about him/herself, such as “So, do YOU run, or what kind of exercise do YOU like? Also, don’t ask boring questions, even if s/he asked you a boring question first (Avoid: How are you? And raising a third party topic (e.g., The David Letterman Show) will make you seem easy-going because you aren’t like all the other girls or guys probing to find out if someone is Mr./Ms. But good luck on that big presentation on tomorrow, and I hope to talk to you soon! What Never To Do: While talking on the phone, never chew food or gum, never go to the bathroom or flush a toilet, even if you mute the phone (don’t risk a malfunction!
” or, “How about YOU, do you have an old friend you spend time with? ” This says 4 things: you’re a family-oriented person (you’re calling your grandma, awww: that’s sweet! ), and never multi-task while you’re on the phone by checking email, loading the dishwasher, etc.