These questions might not be as important to you if you’re just dating recreationally and short term.
I was newly single and in my mid-twenties, and after weeks of being told that it was time to put myself back out there, I decided that there was no harm in using Tinder. His marriage was over, and it had been over for some time, even before the separation, he said. We shared shreds of information, the things that make us who we are. Me: living together with a long-term partner whom I loved but didn't see myself with in the future.
Dear Sara, We all make judgments based on our own experience.
You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
And ultimately help you get clearer insight on whether or not this is a relationship where you want to go into deeper levels of commitment.
The questions that follow each section are questions to consider when you’re thinking about whether to continuing seeing him—especially if you have the intention of dating with the purpose of finding a life-partner.
Here are some of the basics to help you get clearer on his situation…
Raising your awareness means being clear on the facts of your relationship.
In other words, what exactly is a separated man or divorced man?
Therefore, you seem to think all men should feel the same way. But you are correct in proceeding with a sense of caution. Not because he listed himself as divorced but is really separated. He gave a lot to her during their time together, but, when it got right down to it, he really needed to sow his oats for awhile.
Unfortunately, he is married (separated) and getting divorced.